Michael Lee Stallard

Last Thursday my wife and I attended the premiere of the new documentary Full Battle Rattle produced and directed by Tony Gerber and Jesse Moss. The documentary is about the U.S. Army’s billion dollar simulated Iraq in California’s Mojave Desert, complete with hundreds of exiles playing civilians and insurgents, terrorist suspects, grieving mothers, and innocent shopkeepers.  It’s an extraordinary work that gives the viewer a very real sense of the challenges faced by an occupying force in a foreign land.  A.O. Scott just reviewed the film for The New York Times. Here’s a clip about the movie from CNN.
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My blog is primarily about Connection Cultures in the workplace and how they increase employee engagement.  Connection is even more important at home.  I’ve had several friends who were so swept up in their careers that they ignored and lost connection with their spouses. Their lives drifted apart and their marriages soon ended in divorce.  

Maureen Dowd at The New York Times wrote a gem of an article entitled “An Ideal Husband” that infers the importance of relational connection in marriage.  There’s a lot of wisdom in this article.  I’ll be reading it soon to my two teenage daughters.   

It’s wise to begin your day on a positive note by saying “good morning” to your colleagues at work.  Failing to recognize them is to communicate indifference.  It’s also wise to begin every meeting with a positive comment.  Research has shown that beginning a meeting with a positive comment makes group participants better listeners and makes the group more constructive.  These benefits of starting your day and meetings off on a positive note are consistent with the findings of Professor Barbara Frederickson’s research on positive emotions.

I learned the foregoing from my friend Alex Kjerulf.  Check out his Chief Happiness Officer blog and his book entitled Happy Hour is 9 to 5: Learn How to Love Your Job, Love Your Life and Kick Butt at Work. 

Years ago when I attended a large church in Wheaton, Illinois, I remember the Asgedom family who came from a refugee camp in Sudan.  They were ever present members of our church community.  Mawi Asgedom was a young boy at that time.  I recently learned that Mawi went on to graduate cum laude from Harvard in 1999 and was voted by his fellow students to be one of the Harvard’s four commencement speakers.  

Standing before an audience of 30,000 Mawi gave a remarkable speech entitled  ”Of Snakes, Butterfies and Small Acts of Kindness.”  Read more »

Nelson Mandela recently celebrated his 90th birthday. I’m grateful for this man and the wisdom of his example. When he entered Robben Island Prison he was known for confronting his enemies. When he was released 27 years later, Mandela stunned South Africans with his magnanimous behavior toward former adversaries.  Read more »

Check out a wonderful column in today’s The New York Times written by one of my favorite journalists, Joe Nocera.  The column is entitled, “The Sinatra of Southwest Feels the Love.” In it Nocera contrasts the sober atmosphere at American Airlines annual meeting in Dallas this last Wednesday morning to the lovefest at Southwest Airlines annual meeting that commenced a couple hours later across town.  The article focuses on Southwest’s co-founder Herb Kelleher and his belief that treating your employees well provides a competitive edge.  Nocera shares his observations about Kelleher and explores other possible reasons for Southwest’s success.  Like everything Nocera writes, it’s an enjoyable read with thought-provoking observations and insight.   

In honor of Mother’s Day tomorrow, I am taking a break from writing about connection at work to focus on connection in families. Each of us experience times in life when we feel disconnected from family members. The lack of relational intimacy with the people we love can be especially painful. It often contributes to unhealthy behaviors as a means to cope with the pain. In the stories of individuals who break their addiction, you will nearly always find one person or a group of people who helped heal the wounds of the addicted with love and encouragement.

Lost & Found is the poignant story of Kathryn Slattery, a contributing editor of Guideposts magazine and author of several books. In the book, Kitty describes her disconnection with her mother and father, the onset of bulimia, how her husband Tom’s love and encouragement helped her overcome bulimia, and finally how Kitty reconnected with her parents.

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Tonight, the judges for Oprah’s new hit show “The Big Give” selected Stephen Paletta as the biggest giver. My family and I just returned home from watching the Big Give with Steve’s family and friends at a local restaurant. Everyone attending the gathering was thrilled that Steve won because he is a big giver, in more ways than you might expect. Read more »

The year was 1958. Ed Mitchell, a 54-year old marketing and advertising executive, got off the commuter train from New York City and announced he was leaving the awful work culture he had put up with for years. Ed realized that being nice to people and caring about them were in his DNA and the work environments on Madison Avenue that he had experienced were indifferent to those values or viewed them as a weakness. Those toxic environments were literally giving him ulcers.

Ed decided to open a men’s clothing store in his hometown of Westport, Connecticut. This way he could create the environment that he wanted to work in. Ed began by selling a selection of three suits all hung on a pipe left over from the previous tenant, a plumber. Norma, his wife, made coffee for customers. The Mitchells’ friends showed up to support them. Ed loved being around people and getting to know them. He loved helping community organizations too. And the Mitchells’ store grew and grew.

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Periodically, I have the good fortune to meet someone whose selfless acts of goodness inspire me to write about him. David Zinger is one such person. He is the visionary who started the Employee Engagement Network that has become the online marketplace of ideas about employee engagement. David also maintains his own site entitled: Employee Engagement: Results That Matter. He is a tireless writer about all things regarding employee engagement. A few months back David reviewed my book. He liked it and decided to help raise awareness of my work. Some writers would view me as a competitor. Not David. Where others see a competitor, David sees a colleague who shares his passion to improve the lives of people in the workplace. He sent me and my co-authors pieces of rope as a symbol of the “Brotherhood of the Rope” that he has written about. His example inspired me and made me curious to know more about him and why he is so passionate about employee engagement. David was kind enough to oblige my request for an interview. Following is the result. Read more »