The emotional connections that Jason Pankau and I write, speak and teach about are in the workplace and in life outside of work. Research has shown that Emotionally Focused Therapy for marriage helps couples develop and the maintain the emotional connections that have been shown to be the most important factor predicting marriage longevity (and emotional disconnection is the top predictor of divorce). Emotional connections are important to children too. Research has shown that teenagers who feel connected to their families and/or friends are less likely to become involved in sexual activity or drinking alcohol at an early age. Two books I recommend on this topic are Safe Haven Marriage and The Five Love Languages of Teenagers. These are outstanding books that will strengthen your relationships with your spouse and children, and improve your wellbeing in life.
Monthly Archives: January 2011
Extended Social Connections Affect Our Wellbeing
Check out this article entitled “Wellbeing on the Home Front.” It describes how social connections at home, at work and in the community affect our wellbeing. Gallup’s new research provides additional support for the Connection Cultures we described in Fired Up or Burned Out.
Coach Rex Ryan Connects with Jets
Check out this great article entitled “Channelling Churchill, Ryan Inspires His Team” on New York Jets’ football coach Rex Ryan The article makes several important points that support the conclusion we came to from our research on leaders who produce sustainable superior performance. Our research concluded that sustainable superior performance comes when leaders develop task excellence and relationship excellence. Rex Ryan is doing this by connecting with his players on both emotional and rational levels. He connects rationally by communicating and leading his team to implement effective strategy and tactics. This produces “task excellence.” Ryan’s passion and authenticity helps him connect on an emotional level. This helps produce “relationship excellence.” Ryan communicates simple, relevant and memorable themes with phrases such as “burn the boats” and “how dare you?” He tells memorable stories to illustrate his points.
The Jets are a decent team but not a great team, yet. They just pulled off a big playoff win by defeating the Indianapolis Colts. Given what I’m seeing, I expect the Jets are on the rise as Rex Ryan and team continue to develop a Connection Culture with Vision, Value and Voice.
Cancer Free, Seven Years Today
Seven years ago today, my wife Katie had surgery for advanced ovarian cancer. The prior year, Katie had surgery to remove breast cancer. Today, she is cancer free.
I wrote an essay entitled “Alone No Longer” about how setting my work aside to focus on being with and helping Katie and our daughters changed my perspective on life. The essay has been read by many individuals who want to know how they can help people in their lives who are battling a serious illness. The essay also challenges readers to examine their own lives to consider if they are too focused on status and achievement and insufficiently focused on relationships. I hope you’ll take time to read “Alone No Longer,” reflect on your life and share the essay with friends who might benefit from reading it.
Upcoming Leadership Events
Below are links to several leadership events that Jason Pankau and I will be speaking at or participating in.
On January 27, I’ll join Dean Homer Erekson of the Neeley School of Business at TCU where we will discuss leadership and employee engagement as part of the Tandy Leadership Speakers Series.
On February 10-11, I’ll be in London participating in the HTB Leadership Conference.
On March 4-6, I’ll be in at the Homestead resort in Virginia where my colleague Jason Pankau will speak at the New Canaan Society Annual Retreat.
On March 7-9, I’ll be speaking about leadership, employee engagement, productivity and innovation at the National Human Capital Summit in Atlanta. I hope you’ll check it out and consider attending.
On March 10-11, Jason Pankau and I will be speaking about Connection Cultures, leadership, employee engagement, productivity and innovation at the Learning for Life Conference in Reno, Nevada.
Coming Talent Shortage Relevant to Nations, Organizations, Managers
Take a look at this fascinating article in Foreign Affairs by Nicholas Eberstadt entitled “The Demographic Future.” It has an excellent discussion of how population and labor supply around the world will change over the next 20 years as a result of the nearly 50 percent decline of fertility worldwide over the last half century. The larger point of the article is that although many nations are presently experiencing an excess supply of labor, a shortage is certain to result as baby boomers retire and the economy resumes growing. The analysis in the article points out the need for nations to improve educational opportunities, health conditions and economic environments. In addition, it supports the need for nations to create Connection Cultures that will attract and retain immigrant talent to their home markets, the need for organizations to create Connection Cultures that will attract and retain talent to their organizations, and the need for managers to create Connection Cultures that will attract and retain talent to the units they lead.